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An epidemic is sweeping the country, plaguing recently betrothed women. Symptoms include bouts of selfishness, controlling behaviour, mood swings and compulsive meticulousness. Only recently has this disease been officially named as Bridezilla Syndrome (BS). It is important to make every effort to avoid the onset of BS, in order to maintain healthy, happy relationships with friends, family and your fiancé, and to preserve your judgment and wisdom. The following stress-management tips from Dream Occasions should help.
1. Delegate
There are probably several people you know who would love to help you in some aspect of your wedding. Remember, there are minor tasks that others are capable of carrying out. They can be trusted! Having a sister or friend to alleviate the pressure will help your stress levels enormously. For instance, she could contact suppliers before the wedding to ensure everything is on schedule, or maybe she has more time to buy the favours than you do. If your work commitments leave you with precious little time to plan and arrange a wedding, call in the professionals. Wedding planners do the job for a living and will ease your worries without taking over.
2. Keep your perspective
It’s all too easy to get bogged down with the hundreds of details surrounding a wedding; stress and panic take over. While there is no doubt that your wedding day is an incredibly important day in your life, it is just one day. Your future happiness does not depend on your wedding alone and a perfect wedding day does not guarantee a perfect marriage. Remember, it is ok to become absorbed by the wedding and yearn for a perfect day, but never forget what is truly important – the union of two people in love and committed to each other.
3. Don’t become too detail-orientated
While there is no denying that a beautifully designed and co-ordinated wedding will look stunning and wow your guests, you should not let it become a source of anxiety. If your bridesmaids don’t have matching shades of eyeshadow or the tassels on the order of service are a tint darker than you envisaged, does it really matter? A year down the line, details such as these really won’t matter and will have been forgotten. Focus on the excitement and wonderful memories that you are creating and try not to sweat the small stuff!
4. Treat yourself and loved ones
Take time out from the planning to relieve the wedding pressure. Treat yourself to a massage or arrange to meet friends for a coffee. Take your mum to the exhibition that she’s wanted to visit for months. Don’t forget to spend quality time with your fiancé. Arrange a date and remind yourselves of why you’re getting married. The reason can be forgotten all too easily when your head is whirling with ‘to-do’ lists, financial disagreements and you’re losing sleep over how to deal with your difficult Uncle Charlie. In other words, make time for yourself and the people that you love.
5. Maintain a sense of humour
As soon as you announce your engagement, you will receive unsolicited advice from everyone you know. From ‘why on earth are you getting married?’ to ‘oh… why have you chosen that venue/colour scheme/main course?’, everyone will have an opinion they wish to share with you. It’s best just to laugh off comments and not worry about people’s perceptions of what you should or shouldn’t do. Leading up to and on your wedding day, things can – and often do – go awry; just go with it. Make the best out of a situation and enjoy yourself.
6. Talk to your groom about his involvement
Everybody’s different. Some grooms like to be involved in the decision-making processes that surround a wedding, while others just want to turn up on the day. Discuss with your fiancé what he would like to be involved in and establish his responsibilities. This enables you both to know where you are in terms of the planning process from the outset. Neither of you are mind-readers, so be open and honest, talk it all through and be happy with your decisions; it will prevent arguments and strain in the coming months.
7. Accept you can’t control everything
Even the most meticulous planning won’t prevent a freak thunderstorm from happening or a bird from pooing on your beautiful dress. Realise that there are things beyond your control and when situations arise, accept them with grace and humour.
8. A daily ‘wedding talk’ ban
Set yourself a time, say 8pm, after which there is to be no more wedding talk. This should happen on a daily basis! Not only will this allow you to free your mind of wedding stress, you’ll be able to discuss the other things that are happening in the lives of your friends and family. There is a world outside the one of weddings!
Planning your wedding can be a stressful and emotional experience and it’s all too easy to become yet another victim of Bridezilla Syndrome. However, with a little common sense, some humour and plenty of honest discussions, it is possible to enjoy your engagement, delight in the planning process and manage to keep your friends!
Dream Occasions offers full wedding design and co-ordination services.
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